I will be 25 weeks tomorrow. I am now the most pregnant I have ever been.
Bumblebee feels big. His kicks are stronger, I feel them much higher than I ever felt Charlotte. He's a busy baby, which I know is a good sign.
There was a website, I think it was a US government website, where you could put in the gestation and weight and it would spit back statistics of survival and disabilities. Anyone know what it is? I input a lot of information after Charlotte died out of curiosity, and now that I have "real" information to input I can't find the site.
I think it's at 26 weeks where the chances of survival/no major complications goes up significantly? Why can't I find this information when I need it?
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A good friend is also expecting a baby boy, due in a couple of weeks. She had a doctor's appt yesterday and came over to visit after that. We sat around all afternoon eating ice cream and talking about our baby boys (of course, the conversation assumed mine is actually coming home). This is her second, her oldest boy is our godson, and he's a darling (he's almost 2). She is so excited that we're pregnant at the same time, that we're both having boys. When I'm with her I pretend that I'm all optimism too, as it's so much easier to just do that than to constantly be disclaiming everything. It's actually kind of refreshing, for a couple of hours. She knows all about Charlotte, of course, but is so hopeful for us this time, and I can forgive her for the moments of perceived insensitivity over the past year.
Anyway, I found out this morning that she went into labor last night and delivered the little one at 2:41 am. Everything is perfect.
I'm toying with the idea of visiting her in the hospital. It would be back to the maternity ward, where I was last week. She will likely be coming home tomorrow, and yesterday she said a bunch of times "when you come see me in the hospital", so I know she expects me to come. M was talking to her husband this morning (they're good friends too), and he said we can come over this afternoon. I have a present here, ready to go, and I might drop by today, see the baby, run away. I might not. Debating. If I knew no one else was going to be there I wouldn't mind as much, but there will likely be grandparents and relatives etc. I might get emotional, I might not. I don't know.
I kind of think I might go. For a few minutes. At least at the hospital I can justify only staying for 5 or 10 minutes. If I wait and visit her at home, I'll have to commit to a longer visit.
Nothing baby-related is ever simple anymore, you know?
I think I'm going to go. I'm talking myself into it. Really, what's the worst that can happen? (Don't answer that.)
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I have no advice. I don't do babies at this stage. Maybe if my baby lives I'll be ok. I don't think anyone who knows me expects me to come and visit their babies. But I might be wrong.
Perhaps if you think you can survive 5 or 10 minutes at the hospital it would be ok.
Yeah, I'd probably beg out of the hospital, too, but you do have a good point about maybe being able to keep the visit short that way! Regardless, she sounds like a good friend and I'm glad you were able to enjoy a visit with her and be carefree, if only for a moment.
Congratulations on the milestone, I'm so happy for you.
I'd wait till she came home. No reason to torture yourself.
And congrats on the 25 week mark. More than half way there!
xxoo
Yeah for 25 weeks!!! You are getting closer every day!
It's a toss up for me about going to the hospital...you could keep it short and might even run into others while you're there and not really have to say much. If you're feeling up to the trip - go for it. It probably will be harder once they get home.
I'm glad you had a "worry free" afternoon of being pregnant with your friend. I wish that could be the norm.
I would probably wait til she came home too. Don't put yourself through any more stress then is needed...just my opinion. Congrats on 25 weeks. I am happy and excited for you!
Hooray for 25 weeks!
I think I'd be more inclined to do the hospital visit for the band-aid effect - painful but quick... I don't know, it's so personal. I hope it's a better experience thanyou anticipate. x
I have only seen one baby in 11 months, and it was in a hospital. I found I thought it would be easier than her home, with all the baby stuff and evidence that this baby did indeed come home. In my world, babies are only in hospitals, as that's the only place mine ever knew.
Yay 25 weeks. Bump photo? I did!!
kick bumblebee kick!
exposure and desensitization to the ward are probably good. ?
Heather, if you search prematurity in the nytimes.com
search engine, you should find a story about that calculator. It's pretty simple though.
My OB has a good article on his blog at www.robbuist.com about survival rates for prems in my province.
Having experienced the terror of prematurity firsthand, I think you would be in a good position. In fact, I would have been envious of you!
I am so glad that you can feel Bumblebee kicking away.
25 weeks. More pregnant than I've ever been too. Congratulations! Well done. It must be so hard, I honestly can't imagine.
I've just been looking at the calculator, it is terrifying stuff. I almost wish that I hadn't looked.
I don't know about going to the hospital. But, like you say, you could always keep it to a short visit and make your excuses if you can't bear it. xx
25 weeks is great, and I'm glad that the little bumblebee is busy and letting you know he's there.
I hope your friend understands your decision, either way.
Wow. Very brave of you. Did you go?
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