Monday, July 27, 2009

Cemetery vandals

M and I stopped by the cemetery yesterday. I had gone earlier in the week to water Charlotte's flowers but it had been awhile since we had gone together.

Some idiot had kicked my baby's stone.

It was off the base; the slab of granite was moved a couple of inches from where it was bonded on, so it was sitting crooked. We tried to move it back but it's super heavy and wouldn't budge.

It takes a lot of force to move a granite slab. I called my dad when I got home to tell him about it (as monuments are his business and he installed it in the first place), and he said they've been having problems in that cemetery with vandalism and the monuments. He said the only way it would come apart is if someone really tried. There is a slight possibility that it could have been an accident, and the optimistic side of me wants to believe that, but the reality is likely that some idiot had tried to hurt it.

He's going to fix it this weekend.

What kind of person would attempt to vandalize a baby's grave???? I want to find them and shake them.

Dad also said, to my surprise, that he had been there last week and the stone had been fine. He went to clean it, he said. I had no idea that anyone besides M and I ever went there. Shows how much I know.

13 comments:

CLC said...

Oh, that makes me sick Heather. I am so sorry.

And how sweet is your Dad? That part gave me warm fuzzies.

Niki said...

Heather, I'm so sorry that this happened to your sweet Charlotte's headstone. Isn't it sickening? We've had things stolen from Myles's grave and I was completely shocked. I felt such an intense violation and couldn't believe that someone would do such a horrible thing to a baby's grave. I figure that it's thoughtless teenagers who don't consider how their actions may affect others, but it still hurts.

How sweet of your Dad to be so thoughtful. It always makes me feel good to know that others are visiting Myles too! ((HUGS))

erica said...

I'm so sorry and angry that this happened.

And the bit about your dad made me cry a little, in the good way. I'm glad he's been taking care of Charlotte's stone.

Anonymous said...

That is shocking. I'm so sorry. What a terrible thing to do, I don't know how they meet their own eye in the mirror.

Bluebird said...

I am in tears over here! I am so, so sorry that that happened to you. The fact that someone went so far out of their way to do so much harm. . . incredible.

Hope your sweet dad can get it fixed soon. ((Hugs))

Hope's Mama said...

I'm so sad about this. Angry, but mostly sad. I too have been surprised in the past to hear of others going to Hope's grave, without me knowing. It is touching, hey?

Sara said...

I'm so sorry. I know how upsetting it has been to use when flowers have been stolen from my sons grave. How much worse to have the stone damaged. Who does these things?

Ya Chun said...

Yuck! I am so sorry.

Could a tractor have hit it? I can;t see how someone could kick it.

Seems like the cemetary needs a little coaxing to get more security.

It is so sweet that your Dad goes out to visit and keeps everything maintained. We just stopped by my grandparents' and uncle's graves and it was clear that noone has done anything for awhile - very few people still live where they are buried - and I didn;t have any tools or brooms with me :(

Shannon said...

I'm so sorry Heather, people can be so cruel.

I'm glad your dad can fix it and it was nice to hear that he visits Charlotte's grave too.

Crystal said...

People are so crummy.. I can't stand it.. I always find cigg butts and trash and I can't stand seeing people let their dogs hike on someones stone!! UGH! And also the cemetary where Addison is they let young kids mow and they are constantly running into stones and busting them and moving them off their base! It's so inconsiderate! We have a flag in our plot so they know not to mow there. Even once I found someone had set their empty fountain pop cup on Kents little cousins stone right next to Addy! UGH!

Michelle said...

OMG that is just so terrible! I do not understand why people would do that? It makes no sense.

Your dad is such a great guy! Im glad you have him!

k@lakly said...

That stuff just makes me want to beat someone. But on the other hand, if it hadn't happened, you might never have known that your dad, bless his heart, was visiting the grave too. What a gem.

loribeth said...

I'm sorry. :( Sadly, yours is not the first such story I've heard. A friend we went through support group with had the statue of an angel stolen from her baby's grave. She said, "It's probably an ornament in someone's garden now." Stealing from a cemetery is just the lowest of the low -- and when it's so obviously a BABY's grave...!!

People are idiots. :(