A little distraction for today. It's been awhile since I've ranted about my MIL.
Last night M and I were trying to explain growth restriction, and how Bee's lack of belly growth could potentially be a bad sign, and how it's too early to tell right now, but Bumblebee might come sooner rather than later.
She looked at me, and in a very mean, condescending tone, said Well, you'd BETTER hang in there longer than that.
Yes, because it's my choice to have a preemie. We're just evicting him because I'm sick of bedrest.
Argh.
There's been lots of other snarky remarks too, but I'm going to block them all out.
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Thank you to all commenters- your support means so much. It helps me get through my day when I get your feedback. Makes a big difference to my morale, really does, in these lonely days.
To answer a couple of questions from you all:
What do I do with all my time? To be honest, I don't know. I don't sleep in much, I'm usually up and ready for the day before 8am. I eat raisin bran, and check email, and sit on the couch. Sometimes I watch a movie, more often than not I'll fall asleep. I read, sometimes. Before I know it it's supper time and M is home, and that's pretty much the end of my day. Of course, most days I have to head out of the house to an appointment of some sort, or the nurse comes in, and that takes a chunk. I check my blood pressure, a lot. That's about it. My meds make me groggy so I find it hard to be productive. I just wait for days to pass.
Steroids for baby's lungs? I haven't discussed them, yet. We had them with Charlotte of course and we discussed early in this pregnancy that I will have them again, if/when early delivery is imminent. I guess we're not imminent yet (which is good). I remember Dr MFM telling me that they wait to give them as there's apparent evidence that the later you get them the better. So, if tummy still hasn't grown in the next two weeks I'll be expecting shots.
BP is a bit high today (142/96), so hopefully it will settle again. Yesterday was eerily good and I find that's usually followed by a spike. As long as the bottom stays under 100 I don't have to go to the hospital.
Ok, I'm off to lie on my left side.
10 comments:
Hugs! Some people just don't get it, especially MILs!
Who knows where some people get their ideas!!!!
I really hope you can make it another couple of months and little bee keeps growing!!!
Argh. I'd like to shake your MIL for you. I can't imagine much that's more frustrating than having someone insist you control something you can't control but desperately wish you could.
Sending lots of "grow" thoughts to the little bee.
I honestly gasped out loud when I read your MIL's comment! Now, granted, perhaps I'm a little on edge in anticipation of having to see my own MIL this weekend (also a piece of work), but honest to goodness!! Did you/ DH give any type of response? Or do you try to just blow if off after so much craziness? Scheeze.
I can't believe that your MIL would say something so stupid and insensitive. Nobody in their right mind would ever actively choose to have a preemie and sadly we mamas get absolutely no say at all in the matter.
Keep right on blocking all the snarky remarks out.x
Sorry about the insensitive comments. Sometimes I really do not understand people. you are doing such an awesome job! You such a strong woman! Hang in there! (HUGS))
that lady sounds incredibly ill-informed. Perhaps she should come along to a doctor visit or come when the nurses are there so they can educate her. Or, end her to a website.
Gad, why is she taking her fear and frustration out on you? Sorry you have to deal with this on top of everything else!
Hopefully this is just a 'hiccup' and that belly will catch up!
Wow! I thought mine was bad, but I think your MIL gets a place in the shocker hall of fame!
It's fairly troubling how little she has bothered to inform herself of what is going on here. Or is it just the old "in my day" blinkers stuck on?
Sorry you had to deal with that, on top of everything else you have to deal with. Keep resting. I'll keep hoping and wishing for Bumblebee.
xo
What doesn't your MIL get about this? How do people grow up to be so stupid? Sorry you have to deal with this.
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